“A lot of people, especially psychoanalysts, assume that happiness can only be found in a couple - but not all of us are made for a relationship.”

“When I'm in a couple, I feel I'm disappearing, dying - losing my mind.”

“Pyschoanalysts are fond of pointing out that the past is alive in the present. But the future is alive in the present too. The future is not some place we're going to, but an idea in our mind now. It is something we're creating, that in turn creates us. The future is a fantasy that shapes our present.”

“The bigger the front, the bigger the back.”

“Closure is just as delusive-it is the false hope that we can deaden our living grief.”

“Being loved is the problem, because love is a demand - when you're loved, someone wants more of you.”

“For a minute, the fantasy frightened her, but ultimately, this fear saved her from feeling alone.”

“we all try to silence painful emotions. but when we succeed in feeling nothing we lose the only means we have of knowing what hurts us and why.”

“A lot of people, especially psychoanalysts, assume that happiness can only be found in a couple - but not all of us are made for a relationship.”