“I can only think how good life on earth can be, at times. What grief two people can give to one another! And what pleasure!”

“I can only think how good life on earth can be, at times. What grief two people can give to one another! And what pleasure!”

“My son, there may be a time when I explain these things to you, because there may be a time when I understand them.”

“I can only think how good life on earth can be, at times. What grief two people can give to one another! And what pleasure!”

“Dear God, teach me to be careless.”

“I know love is dark work; you have to get your hands dirty. If you hold back, nothing interesting happens. At the same time, you have to find the right distance between people. Too close, and they overwhelm you; too far and they abandon you. How to hold them in the right relation?”

“You don't stop loving someone just because you hate them.”

“Security and safety were the reward of dullness.”

“Being in love means being at the mercy of someone's childhood.”

“Just as my body had changed at puberty, now I was developing a sense of guilt, a sense not only of how I appeared to others, but of how I appeared to myself, especially in violating self-imposed prohibitions.”

“As it was, she always did whatever occurred to her, which was, admittedly, not difficult for someone in her position, coming from a background where rick of failure was minimal; in fact, you had to work hard to fail in her world.”

“Freud wrote that love involves the undervaluation of reality and the overvaluation of the desired object. While the correct valuation of a person is an odd, if not impossible idea, we might say Freud meant something like this: for various reasons, many of them masochistic, we become involved with others who cannot possibly give what we ask for; we can wait as long as we wish, but they do not have it, and one day, if we bear to abandon our fantasy and see clearly, we might face reality straight on. We will then look elsewhere for fulfillment, to a place where our needs can, in fact, be satisfied.”