“I myself cried when I got angry, then became unable to explain why I was angry in the first place. Later I would discover this was endemic among female human beings. Anger is supposed to be "unfeminine" so we suppress it -until it overflows. I could see that not speaking up made my mother feel worse. This was my first hint of the truism that depression is anger turned inward; thus women are twice as likely to be depressed. My mother paid a high price for caring so much, yet being able to do so little about it. In this way, she led me toward am activist place where she herself could never go.”

“The art of life is not controlling what happens to us, but using what happens to us”

“Flo especially took me in hand. When I felt I had to prove the existence of discrimination with statistics, for instance, she pulled me aside. 'If you're lying in the ditch with a truck on your ankle,' she said patiently, 'you don't send someone to the library to find out how much the truck weighs. You get it off!”

“Feminism...is not 'women as victims' but women refusing to be victims.”

“Planning ahead is a measure of class. The rich and even the middle class plan for future generations, but the poor can plan ahead only a few weeks or days.”

“The future depends entirely on what each of us does every day a movement is only people moving. ”

“All women, and men of color - we were owned like tables and chairs. We spent a hundred years getting a legal identity as human beings. That's a big thing.”

“If you say, I'm for equal pay, that's a reform. But if you say. I'm a feminist, that's a transformation of society.”

“A gender-equal society would be one where the word 'gender' does not exist: where everyone can be themselves.”

“The surest way to be alone is to get married.”

“If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?”