“In a true you-and-I relationship, we are present mindfully, nonintrusively, the way we are present with things in nature.We do not tell a birch tree it should be more like an elm. We face it with no agenda, only an appreciation that becomes participation: 'I love looking at this birch' becomes 'I am this birch' and then 'I and this birch are opening to a mystery that transcends and holds us both.”
David Richo“Trust in someone means that we no longer have to protect ourselves. We believe we will not be hurt or harmed by the other, at least not deliberately. We trust his or her good intentions, though we know we might be hurt by the way circumstances play out between us. We might say that hurt happens; it’s a given of life. Harm is inflicted; it’s a choice some people make.”
David Richo“The opposite of interpersonal trust is not mistrust. It is despair. This is because we have given up on believing that trustworthiness and fulfillment are possible from others. We have lost our hope in our fellow humans.”
David Richo“When we feel unsafe with someone and still stay with him, we damage our ability to discern trustworthiness in those we will meet in the future.”
David Richo“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”
David Richo“Our tears are precious, necessary, and part of what make us such endearing creatures.”
David Richo, The Five Things We Cannot Change: And the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them“Humility means accepting reality with no attempt to outsmart it.”
David Richo, The Five Things We Cannot Change: And the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them“The more invested I am in my own ideas about reality, the more those experiences will feel like victimizations rather than the ups and downs of relating. Actually, I believe that the less I conceptualize things that way, the more likely it is that people will want to stay by me, because they will not feel burdened, consciously or unconsciously, by my projections, judgments, entitlements, or unrealistic expectations.”
David Richo, Daring to Trust: Opening Ourselves to Real Love and Intimacy“In a true you-and-I relationship, we are present mindfully, nonintrusively, the way we are present with things in nature.We do not tell a birch tree it should be more like an elm. We face it with no agenda, only an appreciation that becomes participation: 'I love looking at this birch' becomes 'I am this birch' and then 'I and this birch are opening to a mystery that transcends and holds us both.”
David Richo, When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships“We do not create our destiny”
we participate in its unfolding. Synchronicity works as a catalyst toward the working out of that destiny.