“The shift from thinking that I must feel forgiveness to the practice of repetitive giving forgiveness has helped me in my healing journey.”

“When I contemplate life as well as death, I am discovering what really matters to me now.”

“My dad’s life was magnificent, but only if I let myself see and remember more than his years of decline.”

“Without guidance and support for patients and families approaching death, there may be unnecessary conflict, confusion, and trauma that linger long after the passing of a loved one.”

“A paradigm shift of viewing palliative care or hospice as a gift instead of seeing it as giving up has the potential to change the way we experience advanced age.”

“I believe it’s imperative to bring the light of support and knowledge to patients and families when death is approaching.”

“If the push towards life sustaining technology were balanced with options for comfort care in both medical school training and the healthcare culture, more people would have the chance to transition to death with dignity and grace.”

“What would I have wanted to say if I had had the opportunity to see him one more time? I would like to think that I would have kept it simple and said, “I love you,” then just held his hand in silence, letting that thought linger in the space of the time we had left together.”

“When I reflect on the stories of death supported by hospice care and contrast it with our story depicting an absence of support, I find myself dealing with envy and anger. I have channeled those emotions into this book with the hope that hearing our story might give someone else a chance to create a better ending to the life of a loved one.”

“I am certain that I’m not the only one who would like to have a do-over on an interaction with a loved one.”

“As I inch forward to embrace my life again by being mindful, writing books, and planning adventures, I sense my dad would approve. I know he would want me to be happy.”