“You will never let go of the past by ignoring the most painful thing the person you loved has done to you. When you begin to minimize it, second guess yourself and others, ignore it or even pretend it didn't happen you cheat yourself out of healing. Naturally, your mind would rather believe the lies you are telling it, rather than accept the truth. The soul has a way of protecting itself from trauma, but if left in denial there is no growth or change. Healing requires going to that place you avoid and asking yourself why you are so afraid to accept the reality of what happened to you? Why have you minimized it like this person has wanted you to? What is it about your self esteem that allows you to continue being a doormat?”
Shannon L. Alder“Empowered Women 101: A confident woman doesn't have to talk a man into loving her. He either loves her completely, not enough or not at all. Regardless, she doesn't settle for less than she deserves.”
Shannon L. Alder“You didn't choose God. He chose you. When you stop feeling hurt by everyone and plotting your comeback, he has some very important things he wants you to accomplish with your life.”
Shannon L. Alder“What lies between where you are and where you want to be sometimes requires traveling through the Twilight Zone.”
Shannon L. Alder“A wise woman protects her kids. A wiser woman hangs out with police officers, retired FBI agents and private investigators.”
Shannon L. Alder“Give up trying to convince people who you are, instead confuse them. It is a lot more fun!”
Shannon L. Alder“She builds people up because she knows what it is like to be torn down.”
Shannon L. Alder“When you have a grasp on eternity your eyes won't ever see the battle or the lost people that hurt you. You will see a beautiful story of hope, in every character. It is not one person god loves. He loves us all and this is his story, our story and theirs.”
Shannon L. Alder“The meaning you apply to what has happened to you is your decision. There will be critics that have their version, but God didn’t call them to be your audience, someone else did.”
Shannon L. Alder“The people that understand you the most are not always the people you call family. Often, it is the person that has traveled a parallel road because they have seen the same scenery in life and can comment on the view.”
Shannon L. Alder