“It is actually a good survival strategy to manipulate twist, and reorganize the truth in a way that is more consistent with what we can psychologically tolerate.”
Cortney S. Warren“When what we say doesn't match how we act, we are lying to ourselves.”
Cortney S. Warren, Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception“When we aren't honest with ourselves about who we are and what we want, we allow other people and circumstance to determine our life course.”
Cortney S. Warren, Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception“We lie to ourselves about the smallest details, and we lie to ourselves about our largest life choices.”
Cortney S. Warren, Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception“At the most basic level, self-deception is fooling ourselves into believing something that is false -- or -- not believing something that is true.”
Cortney S. Warren, Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception“Whether what you learned was objectively true or false, the conclusions that you made about yourself, your environment, and other people will be replayed in your life because they become a part of who you are.”
Cortney S. Warren, Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception“The more we lie to ourselves about how we are contributing to our problems, the more harm we will cause to ourselves and our relationships because we will blame others for undesirable aspects of our lives instead of taking responsibility for our role.”
Cortney S. Warren, Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception“It is actually a good survival strategy to manipulate twist, and reorganize the truth in a way that is more consistent with what we can psychologically tolerate.”
Cortney S. Warren, Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception“In fact, lying to ourselves may be the most dangerous thing in the world because we live our truth whether we are honest about it or not.”
Cortney S. Warren, Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception“Perhaps the most tragic way that self-deception harms us is that we start believing our lies and we teach them to others.”
Cortney S. Warren, Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception“We lie to reflect the aspirational goals that we unconsciously know we will not uphold.”
Cortney S. Warren, Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception